He dropped the charming line just five minutes after explaining to me that "oops," he wasn't gay, the app must have fucked up and popped me, a male, into his feed by accident. Which is precisely why Amber Rose's tweet was the winner of Wednesday's beef – and from now until the inevitable "Is 2017 the Year of the Male Finger-Bang?" think-piece comes out, she'll have the power to silence a man as momentous as Kanye with the weight of a single yellow finger emoji.This was the question Benjamin* asked me when I matched with him last summer on Tinder. Societal norms and attitudes around sex continually shift and stretch to include a whole host of new sex acts and kinks.īut, for now, there's still a barrier straight men have to get over before they can admit they like a finger in the butt.
Historically, oral sex was taboo, and now it's sexual bread and butter. So there you go – the general consensus from a tiny, unscientific case study of straight dudes: once you're down, you're down. I guess the idea made me feel really passive, like the sub. I'd do it to girls, but the other way around seems wrong. To be honest, probably because it feels like it shouldn't happen, like it's a bad thing. Is that because you didn't want to do it, or because it'd never occurred to you? So it happened for the first time in your mid-twenties. But then it sort of accidentally happened one night she was playing around the edges and then, y'know, oops, in it was! And yeah, it was weird but good. Straight Man Five: If you asked me that a few months ago, then no. Do you like having a girl's fingers in your butt? Kelly Sings in His 45-Minute Origin Story Song READ ON NOISEY: Here's a Timeline of All the Strange Shit R. Gay means happy, right? Because that's exactly what I am when someone's rumping-and-pumping or slowly tickling the inner-walls of my rectum. And who doesn't want to feel nice? There are people out there who think sliding your thumb into a nicely lubed-up asshole is for gay people, and maybe it is. Straight Man Four: Playing with the butt-hole is pretty cool, mainly because it feels nice. READ ON MOTHERBOARD: See Everyone's Tweets About God on One Website Straight Man Three: I'm flattered you thought of me, but I've no experience in this area, I'm sad to say. VICE: Yo, do you like getting your butt fingered? READ ON BROADLY: The Girls Who Use Grindr I'm not against the idea as an idea, I just don't feel like butt stuff gives me any pleasure People have asked me to do pills up my arse and shit 'cause it's meant to be better, but fuck that. I think it's butters that most "lads" are still like this, but then again most "lads" are dickheads.įor me, personally, I don't like the sensation of the whole butt thing. Yes, we're pretty cosmopolitan as a nation, but I've played in enough footy teams to know that it's still seen with negative connotations among young men.
But I've heard that dudes like it because it intensifies their orgasm, and I think with anything sexual it's so subjective and personal that it's best just to let people crack on.Īgain, the taboo element has been created from a group male psychology that essentially is still quite homophobic in my opinion. I just kinda like pussy more than the idea of arseholes. Straight Man Two: I don't do it, but then I haven't even done anal with a girl. VICE: Do you like fingers in your butt during sex? I think the idea of someone penetrating you in some way doesn't vibe with a lot of straight guys. I think it's to do with male pride, also. It's butters, because it's my arsehole, so get the fuck away from my arsehole. Straight Man One: I can talk about it, but only how butters it is and how I've never done it.
VICE: Hi, can you talk about getting your butt fingered? Whether it's a tentative little finger, rimming or a full-on strap-on experience, expressing a desire for a woman to explore the back door – in many people's eyes – is as good as admitting you're way up there on the Kinsey scale.īut so many men do enjoy it, so why all the secrecy? Why has there not been a mass movement of men banding together to proclaim their love of receiving a finger in the butt in a sexual context? To get a better gauge on things I spoke to five straight men about it, all of whom wanted to remain anonymous. Any sexual act to do with a guy's butt is still seen as borderline homosexual, and many straight men have a problem with that.